Wednesday, March 15, 2006
Actually, couples (even --gasp!--gay couples) are going to China and Eastern Europe to adopt mostly infants and toddlers. 127,000 waiting in line domestically to get adopted. Do you have your home study completed, Rich? Or have you booked your flight overseas?
And the CDF's recent consideration of the subject is hardly a "footnote" or afterthought; it's part of a comprehensive seven-page document on homosexuality and the nature of marriage under the heading From the biological and anthropological order.I'm aware of that, pal. But the document doesn't treat the needs of children who have no parents. It talks about homosexuality and the nature of marriage, as you say. Adoption isn't unrelated--I've never said that. Adoption deserves a central treatment in a CDF document, comprende? When the CDF wants to take a hard look at the issue from the child's point of view, then I'll give it a serious read. Till then, it's a work in progress. No more, no less. As I said to Amy's commentariat, 127,000 American kids are waiting to be adopted. Right now. If a gay couple who has been certified, home studied, and the whole nine yards is going to take a child nobody else wants, my suggestion would be that it's sinful to stop it. I've never disputed the Church's right to screen adoptive parents for children in its care. Neither has any other serious voice in this debate. But let's get our heads out of fairy tale land when we talk about foster care and kids waiting to be adopted. One open book commentator sounds brave to me: But if, in my untimely demise, I had to select for my own children to either live with loving, but homosexual parents or to live in foster care...I would probably pick foster care. Let me clue you in, and I've known many foster parents, and some foster kids: living in foster care is no picnic. You might think it's like temporary adoption without the legal custody. And don't get me wrong, I'm grateful for the four foster homes my daughter was raised in before she came to us. We met three of those couples: nice folks, loving and decent and heroic in my thinking. However, I had serious issues with one of them, and trust me: you don't want your orphaned children going through what our daughter experienced. If you think foster homes are an acceptable long-term alternative for a child who has a shot at adoption, words can't express my assessment of your ignorance. And that includes the CDF.